Malaysia

Silencing Our Pain – Rape and Sexual Assaults in Malaysia

By Anonymous – 27.5.19

Last year I started working as a part time secretary in an accountant office in KL. The schedule suited my classes in the University, the payment was ok and the people seemed friendly. I told my family excitedly about this job and my mom took me aside and told me to pay attention to what I wear at work, how I talk and to not stay alone with men who might take advantage of it. I disregarded what she said, but decided, even though I am usually less conservative, to wear garments that are less revealing than usual.

At first, I really enjoyed my work and the atmosphere, but than my boss started touching me, in a manner that seemed unintentionally, so that every time I moved or twitched, he looked at me as though I am overreacting. After a few times it happened, after white nights in which I tried to think of the best approach, I decide to confront him.

Instead of understanding my feelings, he started shouting at me that I am a whore, flirting with him, and pushed me on the table, starting to touch my thighs and breasts. I managed to escape only because he was distracted by a phone call from his wife.

The following day, after a restless night, I decided to tell my best friend in order to consult her whether I should file a complaint. She was so supportive, coming with me to the police station. The trial is still ongoing (for the past three years) and I received too many blaming responses, as if by being a young woman, I am to blame for any men incapable of keeping his hands to himself.

I wish the country would understand the importance of a sexual harassment act and better support system to the victims.

I would like to encourage all of you to file complaints, even though its hard to live your assault or rape once again. However, the Malaysian government will only understand the gravity of the situation if more women will complain. If you need any help, don’t hesitate to contact WAO, Women’s Aid Organization ( for more details: https://wao.org.my), which I didn’t know about four years ago and would have helped me a lot to process my feelings